A friend of mine once told me, a bit drunk, that the worst part of his ED wasn’t the erections themselves. It was not knowing what would happen next. Would it show up? Would it stay? Would he even finish? I’ve thought about that a lot since. Okay, where do…

Intimacy has become less frequent; your partner changes the subject whenever the bedroom comes up, and you are left wondering what changed. If you suspect a partner hiding ED, you are not imagining a problem that does not exist, and you are certainly not alone. Many couples face this quietly,…

Okay, so this question comes up in my DMs more than almost anything else, so I figured I’d just write the whole thing out and see where it goes. People usually want two things. First, what’s normal. Second, whether it gets better, worse, or just different as you get older.…

Yesterday I opened a spreadsheet at 9:05. By 9:12 I’d answered two chat messages, skimmed an email from finance, and started reading about a pension thing I don’t even need to deal with yet. The spreadsheet had one cell filled in. I wasn’t being lazy. I was busy the whole…

Last Thursday I stood at the open fridge for what felt like ten minutes. I wasn’t even hungry, really. Just stuck. Eggs? Leftover rice? Cereal for dinner, again? By then I’d already made about a million tiny calls. What to wear, which email to send first, whether to answer that…